No One is Busier Than Someone Who Isn't Interested in You
We've all been there - you meet someone new, you really hit it off, and you start making plans to see each other again. But then, those plans keep getting pushed back...and back...and back. "Sorry, I'm just so busy right now!" they say. If this sounds familiar, keep reading.
If They're Interested, They'll Make Time
The hard truth is that no one is actually too busy to make time for someone they're truly interested in. Think about it - if Ryan Gosling asked you out on a date, would you say "Sorry, I'm just too busy this month?" Of course not! You'd drop everything to make it happen.
The same applies when you're interested in someone new. If you really like them and want to get to know them better, you'll do what it takes to carve out time together, even if your schedule is jam-packed.
Don't Take "I'm Busy" Personally
Now, that doesn't mean you should take it personally if someone tells you they're too busy to hang out. Chances are, they're trying to let you down easy rather than saying outright that they've lost interest.
It stings, but try not to read into it too much. Not everyone is comfortable directly saying they're no longer interested, so "I'm busy" becomes a common fallback excuse. Don't drive yourself crazy analyzing their words - take them at face value and move on.
Pay Attention to Their Actions, Not Just Words
When someone says they're interested but their actions don't match up, it's the actions you should listen to.
For example, they might text back enthusiastically at first and say they want to see you again, but then become harder and harder to nail down for actual plans. Or they "forget" about the plans you did make, and don't seem interested in rescheduling.
Their words say one thing, but their behavior reveals the truth - they're no longer interested. Don't let yourself be strung along - actions speak louder than words!
They'll Find a Way to Make Contact if They Want To
Even if someone is truly busy, it takes seconds to send a quick text saying hi and confirming they're still interested but swamped. If days or weeks go by without any contact, "busy" is almost certainly an excuse.
Sure, we all get caught up in life and forget to text back sometimes. But if someone is genuinely interested in you, they'll find a way to reach out, even if it's just a few words. Silence speaks volumes.
Not Everyone Expresses Interest the Same Way
All that said, everyone expresses interest differently. Some people love talking and texting all the time in the early stages, while others are more independent.
Rather than focusing on how often you hear from them, pay attention to the quality of the communication. Are they engaged and asking questions when you do connect? Do they remember details about your life you've shared? Are they making real efforts to spend time together?
Actions always speak louder than words - keep that in mind when evaluating new connections. If it doesn't feel right, don't cling to false hope. Be willing to walk away rather than waiting around for someone who isn't as interested in you as you are in them. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you!