10 Telltale Signs He's Emotionally Unavailable

September 25, 2023

You've been dating a guy for a while and things seem to be going well. However, you have a nagging feeling that he's holding back emotionally. It can be frustrating trying to connect with someone who doesn't seem interested in getting close on an emotional level. Emotionally unavailable men can be tricky to spot at first. Here are 10 signs that the guy you're dating might be emotionally unavailable.

10 Signs He's Emotionally Unavailable:

1. He Doesn't Open Up About His Feelings

An emotionally unavailable man keeps his guard up and does not readily share his feelings, thoughts or emotions with you. Trying to get him to open up feels like pulling teeth. He may change the subject or make a joke when conversations turn emotional.

2. Your Relationship Lacks Depth

Your relationship stays at the surface level and never moves into deeper emotional intimacy. He avoids meaningful conversations about the future, concerns or feelings about the relationship.

3. He Is Hot and Cold

One day he is affectionate, the next distant. He pulls you close but then creates distance. This inconsistency and mixed signaling is common with emotionally unavailable men.

4. He Doesn't Introduce You to Important People in His Life

He is hesitant about incorporating you into other areas of his life by introducing you to family and close friends. He keeps the relationship compartmentalized.

5. He Doesn't Make You a Priority

He can go days without contacting you. Making time for you is not a priority for him. He may say he is too busy with work, the gym, hobbies or friends. But his actions show you are not a top priority.

6. He Has a Wandering Eye

An emotionally unavailable man often flirts with or checks out other women in front of you. He treats your relationship as casual and keeps his options open. Loyalty and commitment are lacking.

7. He Doesn't Discuss the Future

Conversations about future plans or goals as a couple are avoided. He lives in the moment and doesn't seem to think about a future with you.

8. He Bails on Plans Frequently

He cancels or changes plans you've made together at the last minute. His excuses may seem plausible but form a pattern of flakiness.

9. He Gives More Physically Than Emotionally

The relationship is more physical than emotional. He is generous physically and sexually, but emotionally distant. The deeper emotional connection is missing.

10. He Has a History of Short Relationships

Digging a little into his past reveals a pattern of short-lived, superficial relationships. He may have an avoidant attachment style that keeps him from bonding emotionally.

The Takeaway:

If your guy matches several characteristics on this list, he may not be ready or capable of an intimate relationship right now. As frustrating as it is, you can't change someone. Either accept him as he is or move on.

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